Le mieux est l'ennemi du bien

The best is the enemy of the good. - Voltaire

I have been reading lots of wedding blogs and came across this quote and was immediately drawn to it. I think it's application to weddings in particular is appropriate, in that so many people make themselves crazy trying to make everything "perfect". We've created a culture where first we tell women that "it's your day" and that they should make everything perfect and if anything isn't perfect, then the whole day is ruined, and then demonize those women when they turn into the bridezillas who scream and cry and accuse anyone and everyone of trying to ruin "their day".

So I've been working on figuring out my priorities for our wedding (and will soon make sure that Justin is doing this as well, since it should be "our" day, not just mine) and this is what I've come up with so far, in no particular order.

1) Attended by people I love - there are a few key people who I want to have there in order for it to feel right and complete. This means making sure to accommodate some schedules, or at least try to make things as easy as possible for those people to ensure they can be there.

2) Sincerity - There's a lot of things that get rolled up into this one thing, but I think what it really comes down to is wanting the day to be about getting married to Justin and celebrating that event with friends and family. As much as I love putting on a play, I don't want our wedding to turn into a 'show' and I don't want to do things that seem false to me just to make anyone else happy.

3) Practical - There's a nifty blog about a couple that set out to have a wedding for $2,000. While I don't think I'll be able to have a budget that low, keeping costs down and stress low is important to me. I want it to be a great celebration, yes, but I also want to keep some perspective on the whole thing.

That's all I've got so far. I think the real thing to keep in mind is that there is no perfect day, and that if I keep looking for the "best" option then I'll never be happy with the "good" ones. I already have the best person to marry and that's plenty good enough.